Letter to Mum

Dear Mum,

Probably, you find it strange that I send you this note now.

It is a rather personal message and I wanted to make it clear. I spent nights to compose it and threw many drafts away. I really wanted to tell you this, because it is so important.

Finally, I decided that I will not think about brilliant phrases and I might sound simple but my words are true, coming from my heart.

I love you.

You gave life to me and you raised me.

I love you.

Now that I have my own family I understand even more about you. I feel that I know you better now. And I can tell that you are worried. You might be hurt.

You know, I am not you. And I did not choose the same path that you walked with me. I know that you noticed. And maybe, you do not understand why.

But, listen, it does not mean that your path is bad.

It only means that you chose that and certainly that was the best to choose at that time.

I have different ways and opportunities and other approaches. You and me were not raised in the same way. You did not follow your own mother either.  And my mother was not the same as yours, I get different values, different directions.

Now I became a mother, too. I am now part of your tribe. The tribe of mothers. You and me become equal members of this tribe and we all have different paths and choices.

I love you.

I love and accept everything about you.

I only ask you to return this love and acceptance to me.

I am a mother now and I am a proud daughter.

While I will always honour my family, I do not need guidance anymore, I would like to try to walk my path on my own, so please let my hand go.

But, hey, Mum! Could you please stay? Just in case I fall?

Love,

Mariann